Sonya Weiss

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Rejection Emergency Kit

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Rejection Isn't the End of the World

For a writer rejection is the dark matter that lives beneath the dark matter in the lowest level of hell. The sting of it burns into the soul and the nastier the rejection, the worse the burn.

If you’re a writer, it’s not a matter of if you get rejected, but when.

Three Things to do When Rejected:

EAT CHOCOLATE

I have a tin with a big red cross on the front of it and the words Chocolate Emergency Kit stamped across the top of it. It was once full of Dove chocolates because you know…Dove. You can eat one piece it and feel better.

I am not just making this up because I am addicted to– like chocolate. Not only does eating chocolate make you feel better after a rejection, it gives you a brain boost.

It’s true and backed by scientific proof. Just google it.

CHANGE YOUR PERSPECTIVE

Writing is not the same as publication and publication is not the same as writing. One is a creative endeavor from the heart. The other is a business endeavor. As a business, it’s subjective. If it wasn’t, every reader in the world would love every book ever published.

It could be that your perspective is wrong.

Editor’s perspective: I love the voice, but we just published a similar book.

We hear: Oh my God, I suck.

Editor’s perspective: The market isn’t strong right now for this type of story.

We hear: Oh my God, I suck.

Editor’s perspective: We don’t publish these types of stories.

We hear: Oh my God, I suck.

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DON’T DOUBT YOUR WRITING

When we constantly hash and rehash why we were rejected, why they didn’t love those brilliant words dragged from the depths of our hearts and souls and give us that big fat advance and movie deal and legions of adoring fans…we become like the indecisive squirrel trying to cross the road. We end up flattening ourselves.

The why doesn’t hold any answers.

On the very day that you get a rejection, do this:

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After a rejection, once you’ve eaten some chocolate and told all your writing friends how wrong the editor is, it’s time to get up, take the next step, and move on. Send your manuscript out again. The day you get rejected. Why? Because one person’s rejection can be another person’s yes.

Get back to writing. In the end, that’s all that you can control.

Handling 2017 Like a Boss

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If we want to find success in 2017, then we have to do whatever it takes to get there. Part of hanging on until your dreams come to pass is found in not giving up even when things get hard.

I read a great blog post recently that was like getting a shot of sunshine mixed with an energy drink and it is amazing.

The link to the post below was written by the oh-so-talented and funny Kristen Lamb. What she says here will challenge and inspire you to make the best of 2017.

This is from her post titled:

After the Dumpster Fire of 2016—How to Make 2017 ROCK!

by Kristen Lamb

We are THANK GOD bringing a close to 2016. Though I’ve survived, I feel like I’ve dragged myself out of a Dumpster fire. Is it me or did 2016 actually last three years?

But as Robert H. Schuller once said…

Tough times never last but tough people do.

Many who read this blog desire to be professional authors and that is a great goal and it is attainable but there are some practical realities we need to appreciate. The road to becoming a pro is long and brutal and treacherous and this post is to help you prepare accordingly.

Think of it like this. If you wanted to take a leisurely stroll around the neighborhood with your dog and kids, would you pack MREs, gallons of fresh water, portable water filtration systems, tents, sleeping bags and a med kit? Would you hire a personal trainer to get you in pique condition for the journey? Would you hire a team of sherpas?

Read the rest of the post here.

Fear

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Fear is often based in perception. It’s how we look at things, people, or events that haven’t even happened yet. We perceive there might be something to be afraid of so we are.

I fear spiders because I know they’re out to get me. That is their mission in life. They spring out at me like this:

Then I’m all

The feeling is real, but the basis of the perceived fear is not.

As writers, we often struggle with fear that’s based in perception. We feel it, but it doesn’t mean it’s true.

We all share at least three common fears that feel true. I’m going to list the top three and then the answers to solve those fears that comes from the collective wisdom of dozens of writers.

1. The fear of not having any talent.

Where does this fear come from?

It can be based on two things. Low self-esteem or not wanting to be vulnerable. When we write, it’s personal. It’s us. Our voice created out of life experiences and life can sometimes kick us in the butt and steal our lunch money.

So what’s the answer to fear rooted in low self-esteem or not wanting to be vulnerable?

Write anyway.

2. The fear of rejection.

What do you do if your family, friends or your weird coworker makes fun of you for writing?

Write anyway.

3. The fear that we’re not going to have the same success that Mr. or Mrs. Multi-Accomplished Writer found. This is the comparison game and no one wins this never-ending game. So don’t play it.

Write anyway.

Don’t let fear win. Your writing is much too important to the world for that. Someone out there needs what you have to say.